Peter: Do you think it's the right decision to kill a paedophile because he molests children?
Sandra: Yes!
Peter: Do you think these child-abusers are mentally ill?
Sandra: Yes!
Peter: Do you think then, that they should be cured?
Sandra: No!
Peter: Would it not be a better solution to cure them, instead of terminating their life?
Sandra: Yes!
Peter: Would'nt it be better to the molester if he was allowed to live?
Sandra: Yes!
Peter: Would'nt it be better to society as a whole, if he got cured, and was allowed to live?
Sandra: Yes!
Peter: Then why do you want to kill him?
Sandra: Because I am angry. Because everyone else is angry. Because I want to see blood. Because I like drama. Because I want to see people die. Because I enjoy this in a sick perverted sense. Because I want to.....
The problem with honesty? It never happens - does it?
The point here is, that if Sandra was honest - she would have recognized her own fucked up traits before Peters questions backed her into a corner. Sometimes people get so worked up over their illusions that they simply don't recognize the truth when it stares them straight in the eyes. That is what I advocate on this site. Be honest with yourself, and you won't have to live a life filled with these twisted emotions. Recognize that you are a human being, and have insane thoughts and desires in your mind, that you continually project outwards unknowingly. Get rid of your illusions. Be accountable. Be honest.
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Monday, April 23, 2007
Piano music.
I really enjoy the piano when I'm feeling melancholy. Here's some of my favorite tunes:
Theme - The Piano
Aphex Twin - Avril 14th
Aphex Twin - Nannou
Bent Fabricius Bjerre - Flåkypa Grand Prix
Yes, I know. The last one is'nt piano-music, but I had to put it on regardless, since the musician is a well-known danish composer. These songs make me feel like a child again.
Theme - The Piano
Aphex Twin - Avril 14th
Aphex Twin - Nannou
Bent Fabricius Bjerre - Flåkypa Grand Prix
Yes, I know. The last one is'nt piano-music, but I had to put it on regardless, since the musician is a well-known danish composer. These songs make me feel like a child again.
The family law
Though I'm not MRA, I still feel obligated to bring this link forward. It's pretty strong, and it shows how unfair the world can be for both genders. Watch it, it's beautiful:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQeNwLsA058
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQeNwLsA058
Friday, April 20, 2007
Agression/Dominance: Men
Todays men have huge problems concerning agression, and what I mean by this is - that they are not agressive enough in their daily lives. Men are told basically from birth, that agression should be avoided as much as possible - or they are believed to grow up to be violent. That is not the case. Men that were told that it's wrong to be angry, is more prone to beat their wife when they grow up. What boys should be told instead, is that it is okay to be angry all they want, but not to use physical force.
- "It's not okay to hit anyone"
- "To be angry is childish"
- "Stop it, or you'll turn into a bitter old man"
- "If you continue like this, you'll end up being violent"
Suppressing your own feelings of anger and agression will lead to an unhappy life. Boys should also be allowed to fight, as long as it's under strict fair rules. Boys that know how to handle their agression, will grow up to be sexually desireable men, that love to debate.
Most men in todays society have never been allowed to let out their anger, and simply leaves when there is a conflict. There is a lot of these men out there, and the ones that have suppressed their anger the most, are the ones that are most unsuccesful with women. The more a man is prone to avoid a conflict, the less succesful will he be with women - and the more he will come to disrespect them.
Most men in todays society do not believe in moral codes as honour and pride. A boy should be told that it is better to engage in a fight and lose, than it is to back down. If boys are told this, they will grow up to be ambitious - and always in search of new oppertunities. Very few men take pride in being a man, and they should begin to do so.
Most men tell their friends that they have a say in their household, and how their kids should grow up. Very few men do, however. In the old days when you visited a couple, you could expect to find deer-heads on the walls, a gun, and a big poster of a furious sportscar, and a glass-closet filled with a big variety of strong liquor. Today, you will find none of these things as the wife mostly decides how the household is going to look, without the husband having his say.
This also needs to change.
People should know that the word 'dominant' can be a positive thing. It is a good thing to be dominant, and to be raised above the crowd, as the one person who is the most desireable. "To be domineering" however, is an entirely different phrase, that should be avoided at all cost. Men should stand their ground, and be proud of their own gender.
Men should not continue to be attached to their own mother. They must distance theirselves from her if she's controlling - and constantly seek his approval. It is very important also, that a boy has a strong fatherfigure that is willing to try things out with him. A boy should cross a lot of boundaries in his childhood, when he's an adult - he will shoot to the stars.
Men should connect more with their feelings of agression, and feel it in their bodies when it arises. This will make the anger/agression more likely to subside, and they will remain from being bitter. Men that hate women, must especially do this - and come to terms with their own anger. A man that is angry because of something over the Internet, as an example, should feel the anger inside him - and jump up and do some shadowboxing. That will make a man feel a lot more masculine, and proud of himself.
A man should see himself as a powerful viking or pirate, and roar as often as he feels like it - as long as he's alone of course. A woman may find this silly, but it is important to embrace this side of manhood, if a man has problems with his sexuality.
EDIT:
Young toddlers should of cause not be encouraged to this kind of behaviour. No boy should ever be encouraged to fight anyone else, as an attempt to 'toughen them up'. That WILL make an adult that has agressive tendencies, and is very bad parenting. There is an example of this here.
Feel free to ask anything.
- "It's not okay to hit anyone"
- "To be angry is childish"
- "Stop it, or you'll turn into a bitter old man"
- "If you continue like this, you'll end up being violent"
Suppressing your own feelings of anger and agression will lead to an unhappy life. Boys should also be allowed to fight, as long as it's under strict fair rules. Boys that know how to handle their agression, will grow up to be sexually desireable men, that love to debate.
Most men in todays society have never been allowed to let out their anger, and simply leaves when there is a conflict. There is a lot of these men out there, and the ones that have suppressed their anger the most, are the ones that are most unsuccesful with women. The more a man is prone to avoid a conflict, the less succesful will he be with women - and the more he will come to disrespect them.
Most men in todays society do not believe in moral codes as honour and pride. A boy should be told that it is better to engage in a fight and lose, than it is to back down. If boys are told this, they will grow up to be ambitious - and always in search of new oppertunities. Very few men take pride in being a man, and they should begin to do so.
Most men tell their friends that they have a say in their household, and how their kids should grow up. Very few men do, however. In the old days when you visited a couple, you could expect to find deer-heads on the walls, a gun, and a big poster of a furious sportscar, and a glass-closet filled with a big variety of strong liquor. Today, you will find none of these things as the wife mostly decides how the household is going to look, without the husband having his say.
This also needs to change.
People should know that the word 'dominant' can be a positive thing. It is a good thing to be dominant, and to be raised above the crowd, as the one person who is the most desireable. "To be domineering" however, is an entirely different phrase, that should be avoided at all cost. Men should stand their ground, and be proud of their own gender.
Men should not continue to be attached to their own mother. They must distance theirselves from her if she's controlling - and constantly seek his approval. It is very important also, that a boy has a strong fatherfigure that is willing to try things out with him. A boy should cross a lot of boundaries in his childhood, when he's an adult - he will shoot to the stars.
Men should connect more with their feelings of agression, and feel it in their bodies when it arises. This will make the anger/agression more likely to subside, and they will remain from being bitter. Men that hate women, must especially do this - and come to terms with their own anger. A man that is angry because of something over the Internet, as an example, should feel the anger inside him - and jump up and do some shadowboxing. That will make a man feel a lot more masculine, and proud of himself.
A man should see himself as a powerful viking or pirate, and roar as often as he feels like it - as long as he's alone of course. A woman may find this silly, but it is important to embrace this side of manhood, if a man has problems with his sexuality.
EDIT:
Young toddlers should of cause not be encouraged to this kind of behaviour. No boy should ever be encouraged to fight anyone else, as an attempt to 'toughen them up'. That WILL make an adult that has agressive tendencies, and is very bad parenting. There is an example of this here.
Feel free to ask anything.
Thursday, April 19, 2007
An alternative for depression.
Alternatively, if women feel depressed, I can highly recommend a good cup of coffee and this great song.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Agression/Dominance: Women
I will start with women because I believe women to be the most psychologically oppressed gender in todays society. I also believe that women have mostly put this on themselves. And I will adress agression first, because unless I do, agression among women may be more prominent in future society than it is today.
Women in todays society have a lot of problems that are mostly linked to emotion, and the fact that they deny/oppress their own feelings. They do this because of political correctness, and because they were told that it is not right to behave in certain manners. I believe that a lot of these problems are linked together, but I will still try to adress them one by one.
- "A real lady does'nt get angry"
- "A real lady never mocks other people"
- "Women often talk behind peoples backs, and that is the worst form of mocking"
- "Women are always nice"
This is what all women are inadvertably told, or have drawn as conclusions based on modern society. I believe this is the sole cause why women often freaks out.
If you are a woman, you may recognize this scenario. You are in a relationship with a man, and you do your best for a month to be really really nice. But he never listens. He does'nt acknowledge you, and he only thinks about himself. Then after this month is gone, you get so angry that you explode, and you let it all out at once.
When you do this, you feel great. You can feel the anger come out, and you like that feeling of agression inside you. You shout louder and louder, and you enjoy it so much, that you want to go on - even though you may already have let all your anger out.
This is nothing to be ashamed about, and it is all natural.
Some women, and this is the women I meet most, will not acknowledge that they are angry because they are told that women are not angry. I believe that women in this category are the most unhealthy. They are in a relationship, and because that they do not acknowledge that they are angry - they will boss the man around, by mimicking his behaviour. They will be dominant. This is also associated with other feelings, that I believe a lot of women have oppressed inside of them for a long time. I will write about this later.
I believe that oppressed anger leads to childishness. When a woman has a lot of anger, she will often get this out by behaving as a child. This is nothing to be ashamed about, but it is okay to be angry as it is only a human feeling. Women have a much easier time with listening to a man when he is acting childish, and they enjoy acting childish because they can let a lot of different feelings out at once.
A few women want to be happy all the time, because they are told that they should be happy all the time. But since noone can be happy for eternity, and they try to hold on to this happiness, they get frustrated. Frustration often leads to a milder from of depression, that I believe a lot of women suffer from without knowing it - because they do not allow themselves to be depressed, or frustrated. This is connected to the fact that women are told to be strong also.
Women also feel sad because they know that they boss a man around. I believe women wants the man, in many situations, to stand his ground and say no. And because they do not understand that the man does'nt do this, they feel bad about themselves, because they are not nice. It is okay to do these things.
Many women must learn to let go of this. They must learn that it is okay to feel the anger or frustraion inside of them as often as they wish to. And they must learn that it is okay for this anger to be directed at anything. Especially many feminists must acknowledge that they are angry at men, and they must say this out loud. They have to feel the anger inside of them, and contemplate on this feeling before they can truly let this go. I believe that they have to do this all the time, women have to express and feel their anger whenever it is present, but they must learn to do this right.
All anger must be associated with an "I". To say "You make me angry!" is not good enough, and I believe that "I am angry" is the only thing that works. Women must come to terms with their feelings of anger whenever it arises, so it does'nt cloud their judgement. Parents must trust that their children is able to reason, and not try to hold on to anger. They must learn their children that anger is a legitimate feeling, but that it is something they should let go of in small portions, and then leave it alone until it arises again.
Many believe that if one expresses anger often, it will make that person be more angry in general. I do not believe this to be true. Often you do not even have to express your anger, but simply acknowledge that it is there, and it is okay to be there, and you will no longer feel the need to express it. But you must not count on this.
And now I am angry, because my coffee is cold. Damn!
But this will be more important to society in the future, as more parents will tell their girls not to be angry - and deny it. They will tell them this because they have heard that women are just as violent as men, and I believe this to be true. But if parents tell this to their girls, I believe that it will only make matters worse.
In order to get a society without cultural preconceptions we must come to term with the feelings that are within us, and how we deal with these feelings - as they are the only thing that truly matter in true equality of the sexes.
Women in todays society have a lot of problems that are mostly linked to emotion, and the fact that they deny/oppress their own feelings. They do this because of political correctness, and because they were told that it is not right to behave in certain manners. I believe that a lot of these problems are linked together, but I will still try to adress them one by one.
- "A real lady does'nt get angry"
- "A real lady never mocks other people"
- "Women often talk behind peoples backs, and that is the worst form of mocking"
- "Women are always nice"
This is what all women are inadvertably told, or have drawn as conclusions based on modern society. I believe this is the sole cause why women often freaks out.
If you are a woman, you may recognize this scenario. You are in a relationship with a man, and you do your best for a month to be really really nice. But he never listens. He does'nt acknowledge you, and he only thinks about himself. Then after this month is gone, you get so angry that you explode, and you let it all out at once.
When you do this, you feel great. You can feel the anger come out, and you like that feeling of agression inside you. You shout louder and louder, and you enjoy it so much, that you want to go on - even though you may already have let all your anger out.
This is nothing to be ashamed about, and it is all natural.
Some women, and this is the women I meet most, will not acknowledge that they are angry because they are told that women are not angry. I believe that women in this category are the most unhealthy. They are in a relationship, and because that they do not acknowledge that they are angry - they will boss the man around, by mimicking his behaviour. They will be dominant. This is also associated with other feelings, that I believe a lot of women have oppressed inside of them for a long time. I will write about this later.
I believe that oppressed anger leads to childishness. When a woman has a lot of anger, she will often get this out by behaving as a child. This is nothing to be ashamed about, but it is okay to be angry as it is only a human feeling. Women have a much easier time with listening to a man when he is acting childish, and they enjoy acting childish because they can let a lot of different feelings out at once.
A few women want to be happy all the time, because they are told that they should be happy all the time. But since noone can be happy for eternity, and they try to hold on to this happiness, they get frustrated. Frustration often leads to a milder from of depression, that I believe a lot of women suffer from without knowing it - because they do not allow themselves to be depressed, or frustrated. This is connected to the fact that women are told to be strong also.
Women also feel sad because they know that they boss a man around. I believe women wants the man, in many situations, to stand his ground and say no. And because they do not understand that the man does'nt do this, they feel bad about themselves, because they are not nice. It is okay to do these things.
Many women must learn to let go of this. They must learn that it is okay to feel the anger or frustraion inside of them as often as they wish to. And they must learn that it is okay for this anger to be directed at anything. Especially many feminists must acknowledge that they are angry at men, and they must say this out loud. They have to feel the anger inside of them, and contemplate on this feeling before they can truly let this go. I believe that they have to do this all the time, women have to express and feel their anger whenever it is present, but they must learn to do this right.
All anger must be associated with an "I". To say "You make me angry!" is not good enough, and I believe that "I am angry" is the only thing that works. Women must come to terms with their feelings of anger whenever it arises, so it does'nt cloud their judgement. Parents must trust that their children is able to reason, and not try to hold on to anger. They must learn their children that anger is a legitimate feeling, but that it is something they should let go of in small portions, and then leave it alone until it arises again.
Many believe that if one expresses anger often, it will make that person be more angry in general. I do not believe this to be true. Often you do not even have to express your anger, but simply acknowledge that it is there, and it is okay to be there, and you will no longer feel the need to express it. But you must not count on this.
And now I am angry, because my coffee is cold. Damn!
But this will be more important to society in the future, as more parents will tell their girls not to be angry - and deny it. They will tell them this because they have heard that women are just as violent as men, and I believe this to be true. But if parents tell this to their girls, I believe that it will only make matters worse.
In order to get a society without cultural preconceptions we must come to term with the feelings that are within us, and how we deal with these feelings - as they are the only thing that truly matter in true equality of the sexes.
Political correctness.
I have to write this up on political correctness before I go to bed, in case i forget.
It is very important when writing this blog, that I do not obide the rules of political correctness. Why this is so, you will certainly get to see later - if you decide to follow the truth.
In fact, I expect you to be shocked by some of the assumptions and assertions I will make regarding human beings. You will find everything here, to be shocking. But what I'm searching for, is a certain feeling that will accompany the surprise, and anger that you will undoubtedly feel while reading.
While I cannot describe this feeling, as feelings has always been hard for me to describe, I still hope that you will recognize it when it arises.
Even though you read something on this blog, from now on, and you feel angry because I fuck your gender over with my vile words, or feel righteously indignant regarding some point that I make, you will get a little tingling sensation.
You will also feel like you do not want to comment, or read any further. You will feel distanced from what I am saying. You may even feel sad, I think it's different from person to person.
But I will encourage you to keep reading. Don't give up. Be open minded. Because while I know that I will hurt you unintentionally, you will thank me afterwards.
And don't worry, it all WILL be okay.
*Pads on all shoulders*,
- Martin.
It is very important when writing this blog, that I do not obide the rules of political correctness. Why this is so, you will certainly get to see later - if you decide to follow the truth.
In fact, I expect you to be shocked by some of the assumptions and assertions I will make regarding human beings. You will find everything here, to be shocking. But what I'm searching for, is a certain feeling that will accompany the surprise, and anger that you will undoubtedly feel while reading.
While I cannot describe this feeling, as feelings has always been hard for me to describe, I still hope that you will recognize it when it arises.
Even though you read something on this blog, from now on, and you feel angry because I fuck your gender over with my vile words, or feel righteously indignant regarding some point that I make, you will get a little tingling sensation.
You will also feel like you do not want to comment, or read any further. You will feel distanced from what I am saying. You may even feel sad, I think it's different from person to person.
But I will encourage you to keep reading. Don't give up. Be open minded. Because while I know that I will hurt you unintentionally, you will thank me afterwards.
And don't worry, it all WILL be okay.
*Pads on all shoulders*,
- Martin.
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
True equality news.
Hey everyone!
I realize this is a bit stupid. I'm essentially bringing news to a society currently consisting of 1 member, and I will probably not get more members for the next couple of days.
I will start with the news on the two orginazations (Feminists, and MRA's) current situation regarding solving their problems, wich is going to be rather short.
The Feminist organization have identified that the problems concerning society lies in the cultural conceptions of gender, and the MRA have for long known the same. They both believe the opposing force (Patriarchy/Matriarchy) to be deeply rooted in these notions of the sexes.
While the feminists have long found out that all the problems lies in the fact that men are percieved as dominant, and women as weak - stunningly - it still shows that the MRA believe the same thing, only they call it agressive, and victim.
Though still the problem is that each organization is too swallowed up in their hatred towards the opposing force (Patriarchy/Matriarchy), to even consider what the right approach is to solving both of the organizations problems once and for all.
See you tomorrow, for yet another interesting news story!
PS:
The solution is: Acknowledge that you hate the other sex, acknowledge your flaws, and have a look at the other organizations beliefs.
To all parents:
Girls should be told that it is okay to be weak,
Boys should be told that it is okay to be agressive,
Girls should be told that it is okay to be transgressive,
Boys should be told that it is okay to be dominant.
When you do this, the roles of society will be just as they need to be. Only when one accept and acknowledge ones own problems, one can deal with them. You must NOT teach your children to suppress these things.
I realize this is a bit stupid. I'm essentially bringing news to a society currently consisting of 1 member, and I will probably not get more members for the next couple of days.
I will start with the news on the two orginazations (Feminists, and MRA's) current situation regarding solving their problems, wich is going to be rather short.
The Feminist organization have identified that the problems concerning society lies in the cultural conceptions of gender, and the MRA have for long known the same. They both believe the opposing force (Patriarchy/Matriarchy) to be deeply rooted in these notions of the sexes.
While the feminists have long found out that all the problems lies in the fact that men are percieved as dominant, and women as weak - stunningly - it still shows that the MRA believe the same thing, only they call it agressive, and victim.
Though still the problem is that each organization is too swallowed up in their hatred towards the opposing force (Patriarchy/Matriarchy), to even consider what the right approach is to solving both of the organizations problems once and for all.
See you tomorrow, for yet another interesting news story!
PS:
The solution is: Acknowledge that you hate the other sex, acknowledge your flaws, and have a look at the other organizations beliefs.
To all parents:
Girls should be told that it is okay to be weak,
Boys should be told that it is okay to be agressive,
Girls should be told that it is okay to be transgressive,
Boys should be told that it is okay to be dominant.
When you do this, the roles of society will be just as they need to be. Only when one accept and acknowledge ones own problems, one can deal with them. You must NOT teach your children to suppress these things.
True equality.
I want to share with you all something that I have discovered while arguing with a feminist. This has changed my view radically on the entire situation of equal rights, as well as the Feminist vs. MRA controversy.
It looks to me now, as a weird puzzle that simply needs to be put back together, but is somewhat impossible to resolve. Therefore, as my view is radically changed, I will from now on only post in this regard, and I believe it to be truly right. I will take both views into consideration, feminist, and MRA - how so?
It's easy. I'll show you.
The following you probably will not understand entirely. It requires openness of both heart and mind, and it requires you to really look deep inside yourself before you can truly acknowledge the controversity that is going on between the two orginizations. But if you can do this, you will be enlightened, and see the 2 genders for what they really are:
I visited a feminist site, and pasted in the rant that I posted in my last blog entry out of pure frustration. This was stupid of me, but I did it nevertheless - In pure desperation that they simply did not understand my agenda. Completely oblivious to the fact, that I did'nt understood theirs either - wich seemed even more stupid.
But luckily, one of the female posters (I'm incredibly thankful that she opened my eyes to this), wrote something that I at first dismissed, but then got a really good look at. Here it is:
“I think male and female roles both need to be destroyed as power differentials are built into our cultural conceptions of gender. For me, in the West, power and the patriarchy is rooted the sexed body, with the male body as strong and dominant- the female body weak passive- the male body normal- the female body trangressive and problematic. I don’t really think biology is the problem. How we understand the body or biology has everything to do with our conceptions of gender. We live in a society that is built around the male body and its needs and desires. Once we destroy the gender system we can build a society that is more suitable for the life cyles and bodies of both sexes. Vive la Revolution.”
I found that the more I read into this, the more I agreed. I began to find, that there was absolutely nothing in this writing, that I did'nt agree with. Then all the weird doublestandards across the two organizations started to swirl in over me - and I found the truth. I sat there, with my browser open, thinking about the MRA and Feminism - and I found that what I needed to do, was nothing more than mediation in principal.
I felt like a psychologist all of a sudden, because her view was no different than mine, or any other MRA for that matter. If you are an MRA or a Feminist, let me elaborate and show you:
Feminist: "I think male and female roles both need to be destroyed as power differentials are built into our cultural conceptions of gender".
- This is the language feminists use, and they can understand this. Here is the same thing said in an MRA's words:
MRA: "We should stop thinking about "women" and "men". We should think about ourselves as "Human".
This is excactly the same thing. No more, no less. On we go:
Feminist: "For me, in the West, power and the patriarchy is rooted the sexed body, with the male body as strong and dominant- the female body weak passive- the male body normal- the female body trangressive and problematic"
- Again, the feminists language. I will break it down so it's easier for MRA's to understand:
the male body as strong and dominant (Normally): Agressive.
the female body weak passive(Problematically): Victim.
They are again the excactly same thing. We have found the same reasons for the same things, but we seem to interpret the meaning differently. Lets move on. This is the only difference in the two ideologies, and both of them have NO use in the search for equality. It is very crucial that you understand this, this has no use. This is the only reason why we are so angry:
Feminists: "We live in a society that is built around the male body and its needs and desires"
Why is this the reason? Because MRA's believe this:
MRA: "We live in a society where everything is about the females and their needs and desires"
Now here is the sugar you have all been waiting for. Not before you can HONESTLY and TRULY read these two statements - and agree with them both!
Both the Feminists, and the MRA!
- can you be for true equality.
Because they are both right.
I do realize that this probably did'nt convince you, but no harm. Once you have foughtt this battle for a couple of years, you will begin to come to your senses. You will see how it really is, without having to assign yourself to any specific gender, an then you will be enlightened. You will be a part of the society I just joined. For True Equality.
It looks to me now, as a weird puzzle that simply needs to be put back together, but is somewhat impossible to resolve. Therefore, as my view is radically changed, I will from now on only post in this regard, and I believe it to be truly right. I will take both views into consideration, feminist, and MRA - how so?
It's easy. I'll show you.
The following you probably will not understand entirely. It requires openness of both heart and mind, and it requires you to really look deep inside yourself before you can truly acknowledge the controversity that is going on between the two orginizations. But if you can do this, you will be enlightened, and see the 2 genders for what they really are:
I visited a feminist site, and pasted in the rant that I posted in my last blog entry out of pure frustration. This was stupid of me, but I did it nevertheless - In pure desperation that they simply did not understand my agenda. Completely oblivious to the fact, that I did'nt understood theirs either - wich seemed even more stupid.
But luckily, one of the female posters (I'm incredibly thankful that she opened my eyes to this), wrote something that I at first dismissed, but then got a really good look at. Here it is:
“I think male and female roles both need to be destroyed as power differentials are built into our cultural conceptions of gender. For me, in the West, power and the patriarchy is rooted the sexed body, with the male body as strong and dominant- the female body weak passive- the male body normal- the female body trangressive and problematic. I don’t really think biology is the problem. How we understand the body or biology has everything to do with our conceptions of gender. We live in a society that is built around the male body and its needs and desires. Once we destroy the gender system we can build a society that is more suitable for the life cyles and bodies of both sexes. Vive la Revolution.”
I found that the more I read into this, the more I agreed. I began to find, that there was absolutely nothing in this writing, that I did'nt agree with. Then all the weird doublestandards across the two organizations started to swirl in over me - and I found the truth. I sat there, with my browser open, thinking about the MRA and Feminism - and I found that what I needed to do, was nothing more than mediation in principal.
I felt like a psychologist all of a sudden, because her view was no different than mine, or any other MRA for that matter. If you are an MRA or a Feminist, let me elaborate and show you:
Feminist: "I think male and female roles both need to be destroyed as power differentials are built into our cultural conceptions of gender".
- This is the language feminists use, and they can understand this. Here is the same thing said in an MRA's words:
MRA: "We should stop thinking about "women" and "men". We should think about ourselves as "Human".
This is excactly the same thing. No more, no less. On we go:
Feminist: "For me, in the West, power and the patriarchy is rooted the sexed body, with the male body as strong and dominant- the female body weak passive- the male body normal- the female body trangressive and problematic"
- Again, the feminists language. I will break it down so it's easier for MRA's to understand:
the male body as strong and dominant (Normally): Agressive.
the female body weak passive(Problematically): Victim.
They are again the excactly same thing. We have found the same reasons for the same things, but we seem to interpret the meaning differently. Lets move on. This is the only difference in the two ideologies, and both of them have NO use in the search for equality. It is very crucial that you understand this, this has no use. This is the only reason why we are so angry:
Feminists: "We live in a society that is built around the male body and its needs and desires"
Why is this the reason? Because MRA's believe this:
MRA: "We live in a society where everything is about the females and their needs and desires"
Now here is the sugar you have all been waiting for. Not before you can HONESTLY and TRULY read these two statements - and agree with them both!
Both the Feminists, and the MRA!
- can you be for true equality.
Because they are both right.
I do realize that this probably did'nt convince you, but no harm. Once you have foughtt this battle for a couple of years, you will begin to come to your senses. You will see how it really is, without having to assign yourself to any specific gender, an then you will be enlightened. You will be a part of the society I just joined. For True Equality.
Patriarchy.
I regularly argue from a mens point of view when it comes to equality, but this time - I'm going for equalitarian. This means: I will step out of the little box that is my gender for a second, and have a good look at alle the faults that both men and women have in the upcoming genderwar.
Why genderwar? Because i believe it is unavoidable at this point, unless everyone actually do something to prevent it. But there is ONE gender in particular that need this reminder, a gender that has gone way too far recently. But let me try it out, carefully, and we'll see what happens:
Let me take the viewpoint of an equalitarian for once.
You girls probably wonder why a lot of men take so much offence to the word patriarchy - and I can honestly see both standpoints in this controversity.
When men argue that "There is no patriarchy" this is lies. There is patriarchy, and noone in their right mind could deny this. See? Even the dictionary has a definition:
"A social system in which the father is the head of the family and men have authority over women and children".
Do you agree thus far? Thank you.
Now. I want you to follow me on this one. And do ONLY look on the second part of the definition. ONLY on the part with the men having authority.
What does this essentially mean? The key word here is AUTHORITY - wich means 'the right to control'.
So, basically, patriarchy needs to be fought AS LONG AS THE MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO CONTROL WOMEN AND CHILDREN.
Right? Is this true?
Wrong! We need equal rights, so a man should have excactly the same rights as a woman. The above paragraph suggests otherwise, and is therefore WRONG. If a woman can control her husband, then a man should be able to control the woman too.
Excellent!
Do you still follow me? Good. And I believe you to be reasonable enough to agree with me.
Does man still have the right to control women and children? You bet he does! He has lots of rights in that regard! But ask yourself: What more do you want? Please tell me. What rights do honestly need to be taken away from him now? Wich rights, is it excactly, that a man has, that a woman does'nt have?
This is where we are equal. I see lots of equality here, look up the law - look at every relationship - we DO have the same rights.
But wait, I'm not done yet. Let me address the FIRST part of the definition, wich is:
"A social system in which the father is the head of the family"
IS there still families out there where the father is head of the family? Undoubtly.
BUT: Look around you! Please!
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father, WHY does the father, in divorce cases, only get the children 1 out of 6 TIMES? That favors the mother.
THE OPPOSITE OF PATRIARCHY.
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father, WHY is the IKEA catalog the most sold magazine on the face of the earth? That favors the mother.
OPPOSITE OF PATRIARCHY.
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father, WHY do FATHERS have to work LONGER for their pension than mothers? That favors the mother. AND THAT IS IN THE LAW. IT IS OPPRESSION. WOMEN ARE NOT OPPRESSED BY THE LAW, BUT MEN ARE.
OPPOSITE OF PATRARCHY.
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father,
WHY do MOTHERS spend 3 TIMES AS MUCH MONEY AS THE FATHER? That favors the mother.
These are only a few facts of SO many. SO MANY FACTS, so feminists. I plea to you. I basically beg you on this one - BE REASONABLE. Look around you! Where is there STILL patriarchy?
- 90% OF ALL FAMILIES IN THE WESTERN SOCIETY IS DOMINATED BY THE WOMAN.
That IS UNDENIABLE. THAT IS THE FACT. Come on, go out. Go out and ask 20 couples. Ask them: who controls their relationship. What will they answer? THE WOMAN DOES.
IF YOU DO NOT STOP FIGHTING MENS RIGHTS TO LIVE, THEN THERE IS NO MAN WHO WANTS TO BE WITH YOU. YOU WILL DIE MISERABLY, AND SO WILL ALL THE OTHER WOMEN THAT FOLLOW IN THIS IDEOLOGY. IS THAT WHAT YOU WOMEN WANT? TO DIE, ALONE, WITHOUT MEN?
IF YOU AGREE WITH ME, THEN DON'T JUST BRUSH IT OFF YOUR SHOULDERS! STAND UP! REAL WOMEN FIGHT FOR INJUSTICE! WOMENS STRENGTHS LIE IN THEIR SENSE OF EMPATHY, SO BY GOD, HELP SOCIETY - OR IT WILL GO TO HELL.
Yup, i believe that was pretty equal. I stepped out of my gender, and i assesed the situation. Wonder how I would view this if I was actually favoring mens rights, over womens?
Why genderwar? Because i believe it is unavoidable at this point, unless everyone actually do something to prevent it. But there is ONE gender in particular that need this reminder, a gender that has gone way too far recently. But let me try it out, carefully, and we'll see what happens:
Let me take the viewpoint of an equalitarian for once.
You girls probably wonder why a lot of men take so much offence to the word patriarchy - and I can honestly see both standpoints in this controversity.
When men argue that "There is no patriarchy" this is lies. There is patriarchy, and noone in their right mind could deny this. See? Even the dictionary has a definition:
"A social system in which the father is the head of the family and men have authority over women and children".
Do you agree thus far? Thank you.
Now. I want you to follow me on this one. And do ONLY look on the second part of the definition. ONLY on the part with the men having authority.
What does this essentially mean? The key word here is AUTHORITY - wich means 'the right to control'.
So, basically, patriarchy needs to be fought AS LONG AS THE MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO CONTROL WOMEN AND CHILDREN.
Right? Is this true?
Wrong! We need equal rights, so a man should have excactly the same rights as a woman. The above paragraph suggests otherwise, and is therefore WRONG. If a woman can control her husband, then a man should be able to control the woman too.
Excellent!
Do you still follow me? Good. And I believe you to be reasonable enough to agree with me.
Does man still have the right to control women and children? You bet he does! He has lots of rights in that regard! But ask yourself: What more do you want? Please tell me. What rights do honestly need to be taken away from him now? Wich rights, is it excactly, that a man has, that a woman does'nt have?
This is where we are equal. I see lots of equality here, look up the law - look at every relationship - we DO have the same rights.
But wait, I'm not done yet. Let me address the FIRST part of the definition, wich is:
"A social system in which the father is the head of the family"
IS there still families out there where the father is head of the family? Undoubtly.
BUT: Look around you! Please!
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father, WHY does the father, in divorce cases, only get the children 1 out of 6 TIMES? That favors the mother.
THE OPPOSITE OF PATRIARCHY.
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father, WHY is the IKEA catalog the most sold magazine on the face of the earth? That favors the mother.
OPPOSITE OF PATRIARCHY.
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father, WHY do FATHERS have to work LONGER for their pension than mothers? That favors the mother. AND THAT IS IN THE LAW. IT IS OPPRESSION. WOMEN ARE NOT OPPRESSED BY THE LAW, BUT MEN ARE.
OPPOSITE OF PATRARCHY.
- If all social systems and families are dominated by their father,
WHY do MOTHERS spend 3 TIMES AS MUCH MONEY AS THE FATHER? That favors the mother.
These are only a few facts of SO many. SO MANY FACTS, so feminists. I plea to you. I basically beg you on this one - BE REASONABLE. Look around you! Where is there STILL patriarchy?
- 90% OF ALL FAMILIES IN THE WESTERN SOCIETY IS DOMINATED BY THE WOMAN.
That IS UNDENIABLE. THAT IS THE FACT. Come on, go out. Go out and ask 20 couples. Ask them: who controls their relationship. What will they answer? THE WOMAN DOES.
IF YOU DO NOT STOP FIGHTING MENS RIGHTS TO LIVE, THEN THERE IS NO MAN WHO WANTS TO BE WITH YOU. YOU WILL DIE MISERABLY, AND SO WILL ALL THE OTHER WOMEN THAT FOLLOW IN THIS IDEOLOGY. IS THAT WHAT YOU WOMEN WANT? TO DIE, ALONE, WITHOUT MEN?
IF YOU AGREE WITH ME, THEN DON'T JUST BRUSH IT OFF YOUR SHOULDERS! STAND UP! REAL WOMEN FIGHT FOR INJUSTICE! WOMENS STRENGTHS LIE IN THEIR SENSE OF EMPATHY, SO BY GOD, HELP SOCIETY - OR IT WILL GO TO HELL.
Yup, i believe that was pretty equal. I stepped out of my gender, and i assesed the situation. Wonder how I would view this if I was actually favoring mens rights, over womens?
Monday, April 16, 2007
You hate my gender!
A lot of years ago I was randomly surfing the Internet. I found what you may call a shitload of websites dedicated to women, and all sort of female activites. "Having problems with your boyfriend?" "Do you get harrassed?" "Single mothers only!".
I remember i got fed up with these websites. As a man, I felt that my gender was'nt represented anywhere. I got so tired of the fact that women were continually getting victimized, and mens problems were literally getting ignored in the mainstream media.
I'm not sure how I came to this conclusion, but I did. I was angry for a lot of years on women in general for various reasons - getting dumped by an ex did'nt cut it. There was more to it at the time, that literally pissed me off. I've been ranting on and on about this until recently, and then I realized that we may have a problem concerning MRA and feminism in general.
There is a whole lot of hate between the two sexes, you don't have to look very far. People, unkowingly, critisize each others sex on a regular basis. When my anger subsided, I started to realize this. I thought that the problem was Misandry, but I realized that a lot of this appearent Misandry had caused a hell lot of Misogyny too - and this represents a problem wich I'm going to explain to you, in what is hopefully a genderless manner.
I find this especially interesting, because you are beginning to find excactly the same tendencies and points on both side of the fence. In the beginning I only noticed the Misandry in society, wich often registers, as these REALLY man-hating quotes that feminist leaders have said. Or the indirect remarks that a lot of women say, that generally point in the direction of hating men. I will give some examples:
"You know very little about feminism and because you are a man, you think you have the authority to comment on something without fully studying or understanding it."
- This is hate towards men. She puts the 'men' in a group of people that never fully study or understand anything. Misandry.
And now a little quote from a Mens Rights Activist. I have a habit of confronting people whenever i see discrimination, and i did this with him:
"I have seen so many men do the wrong thing and back the wrong things all because they were worried the female in the group would not approve of them. That their very manhood rested on the approval of someone who didn't give a rats ass about them to begin with."
- He's accusing all women for not giving a rats ass about any man. Misogyny.
Well, i confronted both of these examples. What did I come up with?
"NO! HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT I HATE MEN/WOMEN!".
That was the answer.
We need more honesty in this regard, and I'm talking both sexes. Everyone wants to appear like they are better than the one they hate - and ironically - this makes them deny the fact that there is hate. But denying this, leaves people nowhere.
We must confront our own hate in this regard, instead of just denying it. Hate is a legitimate feeling. It's alright for it to be there, because no hate comes without a reason - however, that does'nt make it just. In my world, no expression of hate is just. So we have to confront it.
If people can't admit to themselves that there is hate toward the oter gender, then this uprising and equality "war" will get us nowhere. And now I'm going to adress YOU.
Yes, YOU.
If YOU feel offended by this post, then you have hate. It's as simple as that. So what are YOU going to do now? Keep denying it, and blatantly say that I'm wrong? For the sake of humanity, I hope not.
And yes, I definetly hate women sometimes. I fucking hate women. I hate men too. A lot. And the only way to move on, is by acknowledging that we are not "Man" or "Woman", but "Human" - and that hate is part of being a human. Period. Now confront your hate.
I remember i got fed up with these websites. As a man, I felt that my gender was'nt represented anywhere. I got so tired of the fact that women were continually getting victimized, and mens problems were literally getting ignored in the mainstream media.
I'm not sure how I came to this conclusion, but I did. I was angry for a lot of years on women in general for various reasons - getting dumped by an ex did'nt cut it. There was more to it at the time, that literally pissed me off. I've been ranting on and on about this until recently, and then I realized that we may have a problem concerning MRA and feminism in general.
There is a whole lot of hate between the two sexes, you don't have to look very far. People, unkowingly, critisize each others sex on a regular basis. When my anger subsided, I started to realize this. I thought that the problem was Misandry, but I realized that a lot of this appearent Misandry had caused a hell lot of Misogyny too - and this represents a problem wich I'm going to explain to you, in what is hopefully a genderless manner.
I find this especially interesting, because you are beginning to find excactly the same tendencies and points on both side of the fence. In the beginning I only noticed the Misandry in society, wich often registers, as these REALLY man-hating quotes that feminist leaders have said. Or the indirect remarks that a lot of women say, that generally point in the direction of hating men. I will give some examples:
"You know very little about feminism and because you are a man, you think you have the authority to comment on something without fully studying or understanding it."
- This is hate towards men. She puts the 'men' in a group of people that never fully study or understand anything. Misandry.
And now a little quote from a Mens Rights Activist. I have a habit of confronting people whenever i see discrimination, and i did this with him:
"I have seen so many men do the wrong thing and back the wrong things all because they were worried the female in the group would not approve of them. That their very manhood rested on the approval of someone who didn't give a rats ass about them to begin with."
- He's accusing all women for not giving a rats ass about any man. Misogyny.
Well, i confronted both of these examples. What did I come up with?
"NO! HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT I HATE MEN/WOMEN!".
That was the answer.
We need more honesty in this regard, and I'm talking both sexes. Everyone wants to appear like they are better than the one they hate - and ironically - this makes them deny the fact that there is hate. But denying this, leaves people nowhere.
We must confront our own hate in this regard, instead of just denying it. Hate is a legitimate feeling. It's alright for it to be there, because no hate comes without a reason - however, that does'nt make it just. In my world, no expression of hate is just. So we have to confront it.
If people can't admit to themselves that there is hate toward the oter gender, then this uprising and equality "war" will get us nowhere. And now I'm going to adress YOU.
Yes, YOU.
If YOU feel offended by this post, then you have hate. It's as simple as that. So what are YOU going to do now? Keep denying it, and blatantly say that I'm wrong? For the sake of humanity, I hope not.
And yes, I definetly hate women sometimes. I fucking hate women. I hate men too. A lot. And the only way to move on, is by acknowledging that we are not "Man" or "Woman", but "Human" - and that hate is part of being a human. Period. Now confront your hate.
Sunday, April 15, 2007
My story
I grew up believing women to be saints, sweet, and pure sugar. I also believed that they were always right, and that i should never hit a woman. Basically, I grew up believing in all feminist doctrines unkowingly.
I believed, like everyone else, that men had a natural tendency to become paedophiles, cheat on their wives, murder, rape, and steal. I believed that you cannot hit a woman too.
I was, as a result of this, extremely nice to all women for a lot of years. I wanted to distance myself from every other man, who i also believed to have these huge characterflaws as mentioned above, simply because they were men.
What made me believe in it? I heard these things when i was quite young, so I of course got influenced unknowingly. Also, I found that that i liked women in my teenage years. That i wanted to attract them, and that - in my future life - i should be with a woman. And the best way to get a woman, i was told, was to be really really nice, charitable, never abuse, and always love.
But it did’nt work for me. I could’nt work, I was depressed all the time, i felt terrible in general. So I decided to look inwards, and that was when i discovered how much hate i had. How much anger that was stuck up inside of me, because i had denied it through all of these years. How sick and twisted these insane beliefs made me.
I found that I was essentially hating myself. That all of this hate towards my own gender, all of these prejudices, were simply killing me - day by day.
I found out that feminism was a cause of these sick beliefs, and i have hated misandry since. And my hate for women? I don’t have any at the moment.
Saturday, April 14, 2007
Feminism
Alright, this is'nt going to be very elaborate. It's just going to cover a few points that i have observed regarding the feminist movement
I have a hard time with feminism for a couple of reasons, but I think i can sum it up rather quickly.
What Feminism does is: It takes the women that men like, and screw them up.
This is pretty obvious for a number of reasons, but it's also true in a lot of deeper levels throughout the feminist society as a whole. The general idea is basically, that they are denying themselves the right to be a woman. It encourages the women to take the ideal woman, and destroy it. The lady, as i'd like to call the feminine stereotype, is a bit of a scarce resource these days really. However, I'm one of the fortunate guys to have met a real one - they are not extinct.
I've always been a bit of a smart-ass, and I'm particularly fond of making remarks on womens behalf. Especially when they behave stupid, test people, or act bitchy. Women do these things sometimes, but, for some reason - real ladies dont.
Why am i making this point? I saw this great guide on how to become a lady on a womans blog wich she advocated every woman to follow. After reading it through, i realized the rules pretty much all applied to a special girl i once met. So i simply had to send the blogowner an e-mail, and here it is:
I have a hard time with feminism for a couple of reasons, but I think i can sum it up rather quickly.
What Feminism does is: It takes the women that men like, and screw them up.
This is pretty obvious for a number of reasons, but it's also true in a lot of deeper levels throughout the feminist society as a whole. The general idea is basically, that they are denying themselves the right to be a woman. It encourages the women to take the ideal woman, and destroy it. The lady, as i'd like to call the feminine stereotype, is a bit of a scarce resource these days really. However, I'm one of the fortunate guys to have met a real one - they are not extinct.
I've always been a bit of a smart-ass, and I'm particularly fond of making remarks on womens behalf. Especially when they behave stupid, test people, or act bitchy. Women do these things sometimes, but, for some reason - real ladies dont.
Why am i making this point? I saw this great guide on how to become a lady on a womans blog wich she advocated every woman to follow. After reading it through, i realized the rules pretty much all applied to a special girl i once met. So i simply had to send the blogowner an e-mail, and here it is:
I've been involved with a lot of women, but the ones that have been the most attractive to me has always been the ladies. I'm somewhat of a prankster, and I usually love to make fun of girls, getting the vibe, flirting, all that kind of stuff.
I met this girl a couple of months ago though. She grew up far away from society in our country, and was raised by her single father. She was always smiling, always making happy remarks, and did'nt ridicule anyone, and a lot more. She literally took my breath away with her class.
Now I've never been the one to shut up, and I always have a witty remark in store for girls just to test them out. But she had this ladylike quality that simply took my breath away. I'm not happy to admit it, but I probably ended up standing there, smiling widely, looking like a total retard.
Damn!
Well, I'm not the one usually to obsess about women. Actually, I'm probably the last one to do that sort of stuff, as i think it's basically wrong. But in this case, i could'nt help it. She was streaming out this compassion like a hot glow from her smile, and had these deep eyes that glowed hovered out towards me.
She was the sort of girl that always looks good on pictures, always happy. My girlfriend at that time hated her because she had so much success with men without even making an effort. She never sweared, she was always nice, and she was never bitchy at all - at any point - when i was involved with her.
This is the first time I ever met a lady. A truly classy girl, that was'nt fucked up. She was so unspoiled, and so sweet. Like the first apple on a tree in spring. Fragile too. And warm.
I'm not sure how many men actually know of these women, but this is the woman that you don't even want to get in the sack. No matter how much i tried to spit game at her, I simply could'nt get it going. She was like this jewel. The first apple on a tree in spring, just after a nuclear war. So rare, and so scarce, that i thought her to probably be the only one left in the world. I let her go. I felt like i had found something so beautiful, that I simply could'nt spoil her - and when i say i could'nt - I mean my instincts and my heart would'nt allow it no matter how much effort i put into it.
I still think about her a lot.
And you know what? This beautiful woman. This great personality, because yes - it was a personality. Is what feminism destroys. It breaks it. Shatters it to pieces - like monsters erupting a volcano inside a snowflake. Why do these feminists seek to destroy perfection?
It's sad. I don't even know how to feel about that really. It's just so sad.
Well, I'm not the one usually to obsess about women. Actually, I'm probably the last one to do that sort of stuff, as i think it's basically wrong. But in this case, i could'nt help it. She was streaming out this compassion like a hot glow from her smile, and had these deep eyes that glowed hovered out towards me.
She was the sort of girl that always looks good on pictures, always happy. My girlfriend at that time hated her because she had so much success with men without even making an effort. She never sweared, she was always nice, and she was never bitchy at all - at any point - when i was involved with her.
This is the first time I ever met a lady. A truly classy girl, that was'nt fucked up. She was so unspoiled, and so sweet. Like the first apple on a tree in spring. Fragile too. And warm.
I'm not sure how many men actually know of these women, but this is the woman that you don't even want to get in the sack. No matter how much i tried to spit game at her, I simply could'nt get it going. She was like this jewel. The first apple on a tree in spring, just after a nuclear war. So rare, and so scarce, that i thought her to probably be the only one left in the world. I let her go. I felt like i had found something so beautiful, that I simply could'nt spoil her - and when i say i could'nt - I mean my instincts and my heart would'nt allow it no matter how much effort i put into it.
I still think about her a lot.
And you know what? This beautiful woman. This great personality, because yes - it was a personality. Is what feminism destroys. It breaks it. Shatters it to pieces - like monsters erupting a volcano inside a snowflake. Why do these feminists seek to destroy perfection?
It's sad. I don't even know how to feel about that really. It's just so sad.
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