Agression/Dominance: Men

Todays men have huge problems concerning agression, and what I mean by this is - that they are not agressive enough in their daily lives. Men are told basically from birth, that agression should be avoided as much as possible - or they are believed to grow up to be violent. That is not the case. Men that were told that it's wrong to be angry, is more prone to beat their wife when they grow up. What boys should be told instead, is that it is okay to be angry all they want, but not to use physical force.

- "It's not okay to hit anyone"
- "To be angry is childish"
- "Stop it, or you'll turn into a bitter old man"
- "If you continue like this, you'll end up being violent"

Suppressing your own feelings of anger and agression will lead to an unhappy life. Boys should also be allowed to fight, as long as it's under strict fair rules. Boys that know how to handle their agression, will grow up to be sexually desireable men, that love to debate.

Most men in todays society have never been allowed to let out their anger, and simply leaves when there is a conflict. There is a lot of these men out there, and the ones that have suppressed their anger the most, are the ones that are most unsuccesful with women. The more a man is prone to avoid a conflict, the less succesful will he be with women - and the more he will come to disrespect them.

Most men in todays society do not believe in moral codes as honour and pride. A boy should be told that it is better to engage in a fight and lose, than it is to back down. If boys are told this, they will grow up to be ambitious - and always in search of new oppertunities. Very few men take pride in being a man, and they should begin to do so.

Most men tell their friends that they have a say in their household, and how their kids should grow up. Very few men do, however. In the old days when you visited a couple, you could expect to find deer-heads on the walls, a gun, and a big poster of a furious sportscar, and a glass-closet filled with a big variety of strong liquor. Today, you will find none of these things as the wife mostly decides how the household is going to look, without the husband having his say.
This also needs to change.

People should know that the word 'dominant' can be a positive thing. It is a good thing to be dominant, and to be raised above the crowd, as the one person who is the most desireable. "To be domineering" however, is an entirely different phrase, that should be avoided at all cost. Men should stand their ground, and be proud of their own gender.

Men should not continue to be attached to their own mother. They must distance theirselves from her if she's controlling - and constantly seek his approval. It is very important also, that a boy has a strong fatherfigure that is willing to try things out with him. A boy should cross a lot of boundaries in his childhood, when he's an adult - he will shoot to the stars.

Men should connect more with their feelings of agression, and feel it in their bodies when it arises. This will make the anger/agression more likely to subside, and they will remain from being bitter. Men that hate women, must especially do this - and come to terms with their own anger. A man that is angry because of something over the Internet, as an example, should feel the anger inside him - and jump up and do some shadowboxing. That will make a man feel a lot more masculine, and proud of himself.

A man should see himself as a powerful viking or pirate, and roar as often as he feels like it - as long as he's alone of course. A woman may find this silly, but it is important to embrace this side of manhood, if a man has problems with his sexuality.

EDIT:
Young toddlers should of cause not be encouraged to this kind of behaviour. No boy should ever be encouraged to fight anyone else, as an attempt to 'toughen them up'. That WILL make an adult that has agressive tendencies, and is very bad parenting. There is an example of this here.


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